If there was one magic pill that you could pop to make yourself more attractive to women, would you take it?
Chances are, most men would give answer with a resounding yes. After all, who has the time to keep up with the countless dating advice and tips handed out by dating gurus who promise that by doing what they tell you to do, women would come in droves begging you to let them bear your children?
But since reality bites, no such pill exists. And the male species, since the beginning of civilization, has been working on making himself the object of interest and attention of his female counterparts. Even now, in this age of dating websites and speed dating the objective has not changed.
So why is it that some guys seem to get it right all the time while the rest seem to remain luckless no matter what they do? Some would say that looks and appearances had everything to do about it. But that’s not entirely true.
While it may be so that how a guy looks like matters in order to catch a woman’s attention, that alone will not make him totally attractive. What makes the guy go from “Hi there. You alone?” to “Good morning, doll.” is his attitude.
Attitude by definition is your outlook and mindset towards any given situation. In the dating scenario, it would mean how you behave and think when it comes to approaching a woman, chatting up a conversation with her and treating her just a tad more special than the rest of the women in the room.
So what kind of attitude should you have?
A lot of guys think that they need to impress women to makes themselves attractive. While making an impression is important, you need to make sure that that impression is really you. Otherwise, your attitude towards dating shows that you would rather make false impressions and basically lie, just so that you can get what you want. Not exactly an attractive trait, isn’t it?
Instead, develop the “just as I am” attitude. No pretenses, no airs – just what you really are. Very little anything else makes one more attractive to women than to see a guy that’s totally honest about who and what he is.
But hold on, that is not to say that you should totally let yourself go. The “just as I am” attitude does not mean not bothering to dress up in nice clothes just because you are more of a shorts-and-flip-flops kind of guy.
Not in the least. In fact, the “as is” attitude should stay in the backstage. The main idea is that you don’t need to pretend to be the sensitive writer type when you’re more of a Monday night football kind of guy. But at the same time, you need to make an effort to put your best foot forward.
Do this by taking the time to look your best. You don’t need to look like Hugh Jackman’s long lost twin, but don’t look (and smell) like a bum either. Take the time to choose clothes that fit well on you. Pay attention to body hygiene, especially if you tend to sweat and don’t forget to check your breath as well. But more importantly, work on making this a habit rather than a once-in-a-while thing. That alone increases your attractive points by a whole lot.
Now that you’ve cleaned and dressed up, it’s time to work that attitude. For example, as you approach someone, tell yourself that all you need to do to get her interested is for you to be friendly and to treat her well. You don’t need to impress her with things that aren’t true about you. Remember, you are to come as you are and not someone else.
If she responds, then good for you. If she doesn’t seem to be interested regardless of how nice you are, that’s still ok. If this happens, tell yourself that you and her don’t fit and then walk away. At the very least, the woman you just approached will notice that you knew when to stop. Surprisingly, on a second encounter, she just might give you a better chance, just because you showed restraint the first time you met.
Now this isn’t a foolproof plan that can help you score with the ladies. But it is a lot better than pretending to be something that isn’t you. Developing a healthy confident attitude about yourself will not only make you more attractive to the right women around you, but will also help you personally as you begin to see yourself in a better light.